Dirty talk is an easy, sexy, creative way to amp things up with bae. Maybe you’ve already mastered sexting (or straight-up phone sex if you’re old school), but IRL the stakes are higher and it can be scary! Trust me, you don’t have to be the most confident or experienced person to get into sexy talk. So… let’s get started.
Start Out Slow
If you’re nervous to start talking dirty, you might shoot your wad all at once, and spit out the filthiest thing you can think of. This might either kill the mood by either offending your partner, or surprising them out of a sexy mindset. As with any sexual activity, take it slow and ease into it.
Make Sure They’re Into It
While dirty talk is a huge turn on for a lot of folks, it’s not for everyone. So how can you tell if bae is into dirty talk? The best indicator is when you get dirty talk back. If you tell them “I love touching your sexy body” and they hit you back with “I love your fingers inside of me” you know you’re on the right track. Even if they don’t reciprocate verbally, you can usually tell by moaning or body language changes. Pay attention to how your partner responds, and if they’re into it – go ahead.
So… What should I say?
Before you even get into dirty talk, let your partner know you’re feeling it with some moans. (Moaning is superhot anyways, and lets your partner know that whatever they’re doing feels great.) An easy place to start is with encouragement – tell your partner exactly how good what they’re doing feels. Example: “You feel so good inside me” or “I love how you’re teasing my nipples with your fingertips.”
Another easy way to ease into sexy talk is by asking bae a question about what you’re doing, and what they’d like you to do next. For example: “Do you like the way I lightly flick the tip of my tongue over the head of you dick? What do you want me to do with my hands?” Another approach is telling your boo what you’re going to do to them, and then follow up by asking what they want to do to you. Example: “I’m going to run my tongue along your body until you’re gasping for air… what do you want to do to me?” (Bonus: this is a great way to learn what your partner really wants, and what would really rock their world.)
Adapt Dirty Talk To Your Partner
Dirty talk is not one size fits all. Your ex might have loved being called “daddy” or maybe they got off on degrading or humiliating sex talk (ex: “You love that don’t you, you dirty whore.”) Just as you wouldn’t recycle a pet name, don’t try the same lines on everyone. Evolve your dirty talk to fit your current partner.
Don’t Wait Till You’re In Bed
Dirty talk can be super hot between the sheets, but a random “I want you so bad” text in the middle of the day can really set the mood for later.
It’s OK To Be Nervous!
If you’re new to dirty talk, it’s totally normal to feel anxious or self-conscious or silly. Acknowledge those feelings, but don’t let that anxiety stop you from testing your boundaries and trying something new in bed. Who knows – dirty talk might lead to the best f*ck of your life.
Cat Got Your Tongue?
Not sure what to say? Borrow some of these lines:
- I need you right now
- You get me so hot
- Just wait till we get home…
- I can’t wait to be alone with you
- I can’t wait to have you inside me / I can’t wait to be inside you
- I’m so hard/wet/hot right now
- You look so fucking good I can’t wait to get you home
- Guess what I’m wearing under this
- I’ve been thinking about fucking you all day
- Don’t stop!
- I’m so close
- Deeper / harder / faster
- Right there
- I want to make you cum
- I love your body
- Your body/pussy/cock/etc. Is perfect
- You feel so good
- I want you to beg for it
- I love how hard/wet you are
- You like that, don’t you?
- Pull my hair
- Spank me
- Make me beg for it
- That was amazing
- You made me cum so hard
- I can still taste/smell you / feel you inside me
- I can’t stop thinking about last night
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